“Supernatural Provision Concerning A Spouse”

by Roger Hicks

In Genesis (the Book of “Beginnings” … or … “Patterns”) God shows us His plan. He gave the man (Adam) an assignment in the Garden of Eden, “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help… meet for him.” (Genesis 2:18) The word “meet” is an old English word meaning “acceptable”.

So … God’s pattern is that He gives a man an assignment in life, and having done that, He then said it’s not good for him to have to accomplish it alone … so I’ll give that man a helper (meet or acceptable) to accomplish his assignment. The helper I’ll provide will be acceptable to him … that is … she will compliment him (fill in … in the areas of his weaknesses), complete him (God designed us to have a mate in life), and fulfill him (his desire will be to her alone, forsaking all others). They will have an intimate relationship: socially, emotionally, physically, spiritually, and sexually).

The Lord has just the right person for each of us. If we will trust HIM, He will guide us to that very person, even if we have to travel great distances to find them. Again, in the Book of Genesis (Book of “Beginnings” or “Patterns”) we see the Lord reveal this principle in HIS Word.

~A Bride for Isaac

Genesis 24:1-4 “And Abraham was old, and well stricken in age: and the LORD had blessed Abraham in all things. And Abraham said unto his eldest servant of his house, that ruled over all that he had, Put, I pray thee, thy hand under my thigh: And I will make thee swear by the LORD, the God of heaven, and the God of the earth, that thou shalt not take a wife unto my son of the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I dwell: But thou shalt go unto my country, and to my kindred, and take a wife unto my son Isaac.”

10 “And the servant took ten camels of the camels of his master, and departed.”

12-14 “And he said O LORD God of my master Abraham, I pray thee, send me good speed this day, and shew kindness unto my master Abraham. Behold, I stand here by the well of water; and the daughters of the men of the city come out to draw water: And let it come to pass, that the damsel to whom I shall say, Let down thy pitcher, I pray thee, that I may drink; and she shall say, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: let the same be she that thou hast appointed for thy servant Isaac; and thereby shall I know that thou hast shewed kindness unto my master.”

Note the wording, in verse 14: “she that thou hast appointed”.

~Rebekah Is Chosen

Genesis 24:15-16 “And it came to pass, before he had done speaking, that, behold, Rebekah came out, who was born to Bethuel, son of Milcah, the wife of Nahor, Abraham’s brother, with her pitcher upon her shoulder. And the damsel was very fair to look upon …”

44 “And she say to me, Both drink thou, and I will also draw for thy camels: let the same be the woman whom the LORD hath appointed out for my master’s son.”

Again, note the wording, in verse 44: “woman whom the LORD hath appointed”.

Abraham’s servant was aware that there was “A Woman”, a particular one, whom God had chosen for Isaac. (The Bible tells us that God is no respecter of persons.) There is a particular person whom God has chosen as the perfect compliment to each of us personally. But many times people don’t seek Him about that choice, and end up married to the wrong person. The marriage ends up in trouble, and often lives are ruined, and hurtful things happen. We can eliminate those things from happening by looking to the Lord who created all of us, and who knows the perfect compliment for each of us … the one whom He designed and created to complete us, and to accomplish the tasks that are to be assigned us.

Consider the phrase: “And the damsel was very fair to look upon …” (Genesis 24:16): While physical appearance should not be the most important factor in a relationship; it should and does play a major role. The partners in a romantic relationship should be physically attractive to each other. Realizing that “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”, it’s likely that “very fair to look upon” might mean different things to different people.

To one man, “very fair to look upon” might mean someone who was well groomed, neat, lady-like in her appearance, and overall … just appears to be a “classy lady”; while to another man it might mean … worn looking blue-jeans, sweatshirt, a pony-tail, and having a “Tom-Boy” appearance. Neither is right or wrong. They are just different … based upon what “very fair to look upon” means to the viewer.

It’s important that spouses be physically attracted to each other. They should also be romantically inclined toward each other, and that romance should never grow old, but should increase with time. Romance should never be allowed to die or become a thing that fades with time and with the “realities of life”.

There should be a spark, or electricity, which flows through each mate, as they touch the other … a love, an appreciation, an intimacy. Forsaking all others, they should cling (hold on with tenacity) to each other.

A marriage relationship, in order to be what God designed it to be, must … of necessity … be a giving relationship. Neither person should be in the relationship for what they can get. Each must have as their primary goal… what can I give? How can I bless my mate?

Concerning our personal relationship with the Lord, God said, “What? Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.” (1 Corinthians 6:19-20) So … every Christian belongs first of all …to God, purchased by the precious blood of Jesus.

Concerning our relationship with our spouse, God said, “He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.”(1 Corinthians 7:33)

That’s also a part of God’s plan. When unmarried, a person may live solely to please God. But when marriage occurs, you’re not your own. You belong first of all … to God … and then … to your spouse. The man belongs to the woman. He can’t “just do his own thing”, he is supposed to live to be a blessing (please) her, and vice versa.

In 1 Corinthians 7:34 the Bible says, “There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.”

That’s also a part of God’s plan. It’s not that we should forsake the Lord … giving all of our time and attention to our mate, but there is a balance. After marriage, neither partner belongs to himself or herself. They belong … first of all, to the Lord who purchased them with His own blood, but then they also belong to their spouse.

This is where marriages get into trouble. Either a person gets off in the ditch on one side of the road with, “I want to be my own person!” or they get off in the ditch on the other side of the road, “I don’t have time for you because I attend church functions 7 days a week, and there’s just no time left for you … you know–my relationship with God must come first—sorry!”

Our desire should be: to find the one person that God has for us. We should continue to serve Him; while “totally giving ourselves” to the “special person” that God has for us. We should, endeavor to become their best friend, closest ally, and trusted companion. We should strive to please them … and concentrate on making their life exciting, fulfilling, and romantic.

When we recognize our mate as a “Wonderful Gift from God”, true romance, the kind that endures, will be the result. Our appreciation for our mate will blossom, and they will respond positively to us.

In order for a marriage to be the blessing that God desires that it be, that “Special Person” should believe and behave in the same way. Their heart’s desire should be … to become a great blessing to us.

© Copyright 2018 Roger Hicks Ministries